Controlling partners : what makes you the dictator of my life?

This needs to stop.

"When you start to rearrange your vocabulary for someone, replacing words like 'unhealthy' with 'compromise' you begin to forget your own name"

Kevin Kantor~ honest confessions on letting go

Are you happy or think you are happy? Do you have to look in the mirror and convince yourself that you are happy everyday? Some things need to stop. Do you even realise you no longer living for yourself but for someone's pleasure. It's things like this that slowly make us weak.

We need to take control of our lives again.

If they love you they don't have to manipulate or control you just to show it. We are old and know what is right or wrong for us. We are capable of taking care of ourselves. Should you feel unhappy then speak up. You can't have more sad moments than happy moments.

It is no use keeping quite trying to keep the peace but you unhappy. You shouldn't be afraid to be alone. Don't make it easy for your partner to manipulate you. There's a difference between being loved and being used. Don't force yourself to situations. Don't think they are the only ones for you. Don't become someone's tool.

Nobody is perfect but that doesn't mean you should just settle for just anyone. They are beating you up but you keep quite, do you want to leave them as a corpse? They are emotionally and verbally harassing you, leave them alone. Things aren't always as they seem. We sometimes argue and things get out of hand but that shouldn't happen everyday, then it is simply toxic. It is scary to be alone but at least you have yourself.

Don't lose yourself trying to be whole within someone else. You might be their typical coping mechanism and nothing more. Some people are broken and don't want to be fixed. I don't mean just because your partner is secretive you should leave them. Their past might be haunting them. It is not easy to let someone into your life at a deeper level. We can never really know people's intentions but they should have the decency to treat you well.

They might be scared of the monsters under their beds at night but be careful that you don't end up with that monster in bed. You shouldn't be manipulated to do certain things. You shouldn't question your decision-making with them. Do they want you to run everything by them before you take decisions? Do you have to ask them for permission to go somewhere every time? Thinks can escalate quick but you should still stand up for yourself.

No one is perfect but they just making it uneasy for you then you leave. It is not the end of the world. Your life is not worth those headaches and tears everyday. We all have someone out there. Be careful you don't end up alone trying to be in a relationship. You will have an epiphany and it will be a wakeup call. If they treat you bad then leave.