Don't sell yourself short

Why do we enjoy being cushions and fallback plans

If they leave willingly don't feel guilty. We all have our reasons for doing things. Last thing you want to do is carry someone's burden for them. You will stay at that stage only.

How you act teaches people how to treat you. If you are forever friendly and understanding then you automatically become the therapist. I'm not saying become a monster but stand your ground. Are there those people who come in and out of your life as they please? You always make time for them.

Some people will make you feel like you are all they need. You will be there for them in their time of need. Wait for them to fall back on their feet, you will so their true colours.

Because we let people in and out of our lives as they please, you can't say they are all treating you good. Some have cost you so much and you don't even realise it until you are alone. They know very well how you feel about them. Instead of being honest about their feelings towards you, they prefer to use you to their advantage. You will so much and loose the same way.

It is not a bad option to choose yourself first. Not everyone will be pleased but that is not the case. Mental health is something we tend to neglect. The more you invest your time helping those that are no good for you, the more you will suffer deeply.

You might make peace for now thinking when they come back they are going to stay only to find they are coming back to you so you can help them feel better. You become their unpaid therapist. You give them confidence and hope thinking they will remember you but they don't. They go back to the same place that made come to you.

If someone only wants to use you during their time of need only, remember that you are better than that. We can not suffer while there is a possibility of being free. We all have problems. We wish to address them but we can't always do that. 

The more you let people walk all over you, the more you become their "safety net". We all want to be loved not used. You will know the difference. Don't imagine things that can't be a reality.

Stand your ground. Cut the parasites, they are no good for you. We can't help people who can't help themselves