Leftovers

  leftover

noun

something, especially food, remaining after the rest has been used.

Ever feel like you are leftovers or sloppy seconds? We should do better. Leave that situation alone. 

Fight for what you want. If you cant get it then move to the next thing. People act right for the ones that they want. We can be ignorant at times but that is the truth. It's a hard pill to shallow. 

You can't dwell in your shitty emotions forever. Life is not fair. We all know that. The last thing you want is to be treated like a leftover, the leftover braai meat we eat for breakfast. You didn't matter until that moment. If the moment didn't represent itself you wouldn't have mattered. Remember that. 

You presence must be felt. The people must appreciate it. You can't be doubting yourself, ever. Bet on yourself. If you are not appreciated you must move. Go where you are appreciated. Time is not on our side. Maximise it as much as you can. 

If you have to guess the role you play in people's lives or the roles they play in yours then you already know the answer. 

Life is not fair at all. We want things we can't always have. We might have an idea of how we want everything to work out but it doesn't guarantee that it will work out.

Ever got an invite that was last minute? Ever got a short notice on something? Don't go there. You were never part of the initial plans. You do not deserve such. You must be on the initial plans or nothing at all.

We all work so hard to get what we want and need. The least we can do is make sure our presence is where it is appreciated. Don't lie to yourself. It won't be fair.

We all want to feel loved and appreciated wherever we are. It's not a matter of vibes. You can't be on and off with people. We are growing up, try having stability. If they have to call you last minute to attend something then cut them off. Don't be scared. You were never part of the initial plans. We know it hurts but don't do that to yourself. We need to stop normalizing pain. 

Part of growing up is knowing how to read the room. You will know where you are not appreciated. You will feel it. Don't ever settle to being a leftover. That is not fair on yourself. You deserve so much more. 

You don't want to be a "People pleaser". We all want to be pleased. If you continue like that then you won't be pleased. It's part of human nature. You want to be in a welcoming environment. Life is already dealing with us. You want a safe place. You can't be a leftover. Nobody wants to be the other woman or other man. Nobody wants to be the "backup plan" or "leftovers". You deserve so much more. You were never part of the initial plan. Remember that